Marriages across the globe seem to be disintegrating. There is no singular reason, in particular, that cause a relationship to go bust. From a generic point of view, however, sticking it out for the long haul seems to be done away with, entirely. Men and women alike who find it difficult to work things through, end up fighting it out in court for alimony, custody, or a settlement. Some do not even seek help from a counselor just throw in the towel. Here are ways to help you mend your marriage with the right set of tools as you choose the best marriage counselor.
Change is Constant
As we get more involved with work, relationships take a beating. The simple things that you found cute about your partner can grate on your nerves. One way to deal with this is to find a commonality to balance the beam. This may get both people to look at the other with a different set of eyes. For instance, having separate bedrooms can do the trick, especially when both have crazy work hours. Sleep together when you have the time and the inclination. You get your space, love remains on the cards, and there is no crowding.
A pretty young thing or a hot male can get the adrenaline pumping. This usually occurs when sex has gone down the drain, in the relationship. Or that the sex is not as exciting as it was in the early years. Instead of cheating on your spouse, opt to spice things up in the bedroom. You can change the score considerably. If need be, seek the expertise of a good sex therapist and work through the tricky times. In fact revving things up in a different direction can help.
Take Time Out
A holiday away from the maddening crowd, work pressure and other pressures is a wonderful way to connect with each other. You can devote time and attention to each other. It also gives you some time away to explore new horizons across the country or the globe. This second honeymoon will get you in the mood to talk and rekindle the romance.
Cannot See Eye-to-Eye
No matter what happens, unless you work at things, nothing will improve. Seek help through counseling. As you open up about the problems that the two of you have, it will help. If abuse has been on the cards for a while, open up about the abuse. Bottling your emotions is never a healthy way to get past the hurt. If you fear for your life from your partner, you will need additional support. Living in a relationship that borders on abuse of any kind is not health.
At the end of the day, you cannot give up on the person who you have vowed to stick it out for better or for worse. If you feel that, there is nothing to gain from the relationship, in a positive vein, seek expert individual therapy. This may help you discern whether to stay married, opt for a trial separation or divorce. A marriage counselor must be someone who maintains confidentiality and helps you see reason.
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