How To Choose The Best Marriage Counselor

Marriage Counseling

Marriages across the globe seem to be disintegrating. There is no singular reason, in particular, that cause a relationship to go bust. From a generic point of view, however, sticking it out for the long haul seems to be done away with, entirely. Men and women alike who find it difficult to work things through, end up fighting it out in court for alimony, custody, or a settlement. Some do not even seek help from a counselor just throw in the towel. Here are ways to help you mend your marriage with the right set of tools as you choose the best marriage counselor.

Change is Constant

As we get more involved with work, relationships take a beating. The simple things that you found cute about your partner can grate on your nerves. One way to deal with this is to find a commonality to balance the beam. This may get both people to look at the other with a different set of eyes. For instance, having separate bedrooms can do the trick, especially when both have crazy work hours. Sleep together when you have the time and the inclination. You get your space, love remains on the cards, and there is no crowding.

Attraction

A pretty young thing or a hot male can get the adrenaline pumping. This usually occurs when sex has gone down the drain, in the relationship. Or that the sex is not as exciting as it was in the early years. Instead of cheating on your spouse, opt to spice things up in the bedroom. You can change the score considerably. If need be, seek the expertise of a good sex therapist and work through the tricky times. In fact revving things up in a different direction can help.

Take Time Out

A holiday away from the maddening crowd, work pressure and other pressures is a wonderful way to connect with each other. You can devote time and attention to each other. It also gives you some time away to explore new horizons across the country or the globe. This second honeymoon will get you in the mood to talk and rekindle the romance.

Cannot See Eye-to-Eye

No matter what happens, unless you work at things, nothing will improve. Seek help through counseling. As you open up about the problems that the two of you have, it will help. If abuse has been on the cards for a while, open up about the abuse. Bottling your emotions is never a healthy way to get past the hurt. If you fear for your life from your partner, you will need additional support. Living in a relationship that borders on abuse of any kind is not health.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, you cannot give up on the person who you have vowed to stick it out for better or for worse. If you feel that, there is nothing to gain from the relationship, in a positive vein, seek expert individual therapy. This may help you discern whether to stay married, opt for a trial separation or divorce. A marriage counselor must be someone who maintains confidentiality and helps you see reason.

Want to talk?

Collaborative Therapeutic Services (CTS) seeks to maximize clients’ options by offering a variety of services, hours, locations and service providers with diverse specializations. We offer evening & weekend appointments. Have questions? Contact Us Here or Call 813-951-7346. Locations in Tampa & Brandon.

Grief and Loss Counseling Therapy in Tampa | Brandon, FL

Grief and Loss Counseling

Life can be quite depressing when you find that you are on your own after you lose someone you love dearly. People may be there for you for a while, but after some time, they need to get on with their lives, leaving you quite confused as to how to deal with the loss, the sadness, and the loneliness. When you have been together for years, it can get quite confusing when a partner passes away. The feeling of utmost dejection can strike you ever so suddenly. Trying to communicate with the dead is not a nice way to get on; in fact, it does not let him/her rest in peace. However, talking things over with a counselor can help you see the situation from a different perspective.

How to deal with sadness

Grief is quite a complicated experience. In fact, there are different stages of grief. The final one is where you accept that you have to move on. To get to this step, it would require that you seek the help of a certified therapist, who can guide you through the different stages. Initially, the abject sense of loss and fear can cause you to cry constantly, as you feel a sense of desperation to talk to that special someone engulf you. The pain of not being able to see him/her, touch him/her can drive you to such an uncontrollable sense of loss. During the session, the professional will work together to help you recall the good times and reflect on them. As you remember the funny times, the tears will change to laughter and giggles. The realization then dawns on you that while your lives were meant to be intertwined, death is an eventuality. During the counseling session, one may have to deal with the fact that that the person, who has passed on, may have suffered. Hence, the importance of letting him/her go to a better place is very necessary.

Think of the kids

Mourning the loss of a loved one is natural, but carrying this on for years is not healthy. Many people keep moping, hoping that they can turn back time, but that will never happen. The objective of therapy is to cope with the loss. The professional cannot be too rude and expect the person to accept the ground reality. It takes time. One cannot mend overnight; it takes some getting used to not having the person near your side. In addition, one cannot expect kindness from everyone, in fact, you can expect them to run away when you are sad. Kids especially need their living parent to be there for them. It is quite cruel to them to keep on crying and never letting go. The objective is to accept that the love of your life has passed away, but his/her love remains with you forever.

Professional advice

Visit Collaborative Therapeutic Services in Tampa | Brandon, FL, if you need expert advice and counseling. You will benefit, as the professional will help you get past the hurt, one step at a time.

Want to talk?

Collaborative Therapeutic Services (CTS) seeks to maximize clients’ options by offering a variety of services, hours, locations and service providers with diverse specializations. We offer evening & weekend appointments. Have questions? Contact Us Here or Call 813-951-7346. Locations in Tampa & Brandon.

Therapy for Gender, Sexual Identity, LGBTQ Issues

 LGBTQ Therapy

Across the world, people have been experimenting with their sexuality. It could be because of not being happy with the natural order of heterosexual relationships or because going a certain way is not always the accepted way to keep in touch with their inherent needs. Society, in general, does not feel comfortable having people of mixed sexual preferences in their midst. For women and men who are attracted to people of the same sex, they meet with ridicule from family and friends. It is wise to seek out help from an expert counselor who can help you deal with the issue if you find yourself at the crossroads. While sex is one of the primary reasons why people seek companionship, it is not the only relevance for a relationship to form the deepest roots.

Identifying sexuality

Finding an identity in the big bad world of judgment can take quite a while. People who are born with both sex organs do not know where they stand. When others find out their secret, they face ridicule and insults from every quarter. At some point in time, if they identify with a certain sex, they may opt for a change and settle for being identified as either male or female and not ‘other’. The question, therefore, arises as to whether the person may be accepted in society as she/he may not be able to have children because of the change in gender. Everyone has a deep need for love, and society should not differentiate.

Solutions for multi sexual issues

Counseling works wonders in helping a transgender deal with any problem that may come their way. Before going in for the operation, anyway, the individual has to know what it feels like to change from one gender to the next. Most people do not understand the concepts of being lesbian, gay, bisexual or asexual. Because of this lack of knowledge, people who do not fit within a certain framework are branded for life. This form of bullying, therefore, becomes quite difficult to take and the individual may even resort to harming himself/herself because of not fitting in with the rest. The point is that sometimes people are born this way; some opt to be gay just for the heck of it to prove a point. A therapy session will help one identify if she/he is really bisexual or an inherent heterosexual being.

Hormones and the rapid growth of sexual functioning

The therapist in Tampa, Brandon, FL ensures that he/she hears what the patient has to say before helping the individual. Most often people feel dejected because they do not appear to be like their family or peers. A deep sense of dejection may creep in resulting in them feeling queer. They feel alienated and removed while their hormones peak and feelings go out of sync. A good therapist helps people caught in a difficult situation, find a way out of their worries, and identify with who they are, even if they are judged. Therapy is the best form of help for people who are ostracized because they do not fit within a so-called normal framework.

Visit Collaborative Therapeutic Services in Tampa | Brandon, FL for more information about therapy for gender, sexual identity, and LGBTQ issues.

Collaborative Therapeutic Services (CTS) seeks to maximize clients’ options by offering a variety of services, hours, locations and service providers with diverse specializations. We offer evening & weekend appointments. Have questions? Contact Us Here or Call 813-951-7346. Locations in Tampa & Brandon.